Push past your fears to see your potential

Little fears within us are detrimental to living our lives to the full potential. We all have fears in life whether they are small or big, fears often leave a lasting impact. It can stop you from dreaming big (fear of failure) or fear can stop you from speaking up when you see something wrong. What I have noticed is that we usually fear the outcome. We fear what will happen if, for example, we speak up against a wrong doing or what will happen if we fail at starting our dream business.

Fear is a something we can not get rid of, no matter how hard you try, it will always be there. So what’s the solution? Should you stop dreaming in fear of failure and therefore stop living? Or you can work with it. Yes, you can work with your fear.

A fear I pushed past was the fear of getting in a car accident. I had recently got my license and was driving home from the store with my family in the car. It was dark, snowy, and low visibility so I couldn’t tell the road was slippery and icy. The fear of the car skidding on the ice was prominent. I let it cloud my focus on the road and instead of driving carefully, I was thinking of my fear of being in an accident because of the icy roads. Guess what happened? I lost control of the car as it started skidding and swaying left to right. Luckily, my mom in the passenger seat helped me steady the wheel so we didn’t collide with an oncoming car.

This incident scared me to not drive for many months even in the spring/summer because I didn’t want to be in that situation again (fear). I eventually worked with my fear of getting in a car accident by taking control of the fear, answering the what if questions, and taking the necessary actions to conquer the fear.

How to work with your fear

To reduce fear, you have to stop from making it a big deal in your head. We tend to be overdramatic when facing our fears which causes us to stop thinking clearly.

The first step is to think about what will happen if you confront your fear. Work through the bad things or the worst that will happen. Then think “What if things go right? What’s the best that could happen? What if what happens is good?”

Approach fear with gratitude.

“Thank you fear for keeping me safe, alert, and for protecting me from danger.” Calm down the fear and tell yourself that there is no reason to panic.

Try this with a fear you may have that is relatively small to you. How about a fear of spiders. What if you see a spider on the bathroom sink? I would personally scream and my mind would start a river of what if questions and panic.

  1. Calm down your mind as best you can. Tell yourself that the spider is small, harmless, can not fly, and has zero power. What’s the worst that can happen? It gets away. What’s the best that can happen? You get rid of the spider!
  2. With a clear mind, work with what options you have to get rid of the spider.
  3. Do the action.

I hope you can see that fear should not get in the way of your dreams. Life is greater than you can imagine once you get out of your own way and be open to your potential. If you liked this post, check out more like this in the “Sincerely, Aditi” category for more life advice and tips.

Thank you for reading and until next time don’t forget to stay Chic Neat and Sweet!

Sincerely, Aditi

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Only $10 Sephora Favorites Hello! Beauty Icons Set

I came across this on Sephora’s website and blinked a few times to see if I read the price right. After analyzing it for a good 10 minutes, I added it to my cart. If you can, I would add it to your cart right away! Let me show you what you get! Oh also, Sephora has free shipping.

You get a 15% off voucher to use on a full size purchase for any of the six samples and also these products:

  • NARS Lipstick in Tolède
  • NUDESTIX Nudies Matte Blush & Bronze in Sunkissed
  • Youth To The People Superfood Antioxidant Cleanser
  • LANEIGE Water Bank Moisture Cream
  • Living Proof Restore Repair Hair Mask
  • Viktor&Rolf Flowerbomb

I loved the selection and variety of the samples. They are all something I can use daily. Here are my thoughts on the products after using them.

The NARS lipstick looks red but is actually a soft mauve shade. On light skin tones, it is a nude lipstick and on dark skin tones, it is not that visible. I think I will use it when I need a natural lip color. It is matte and pigmented, very comfortable to wear. It does transfer and fade by the end of the day though.

The Nudestick is meant for your lips, cheeks, and eyes. It is a very natural shade for skin of color like myself and as a lip product it wasn’t visible. I liked it best as a cream blush because it blends easily and I love the pigmentation. It does last for a good amount of time though. The shade is more red toned compared to the Milk Makeup cream blush in “werk” that I have which you can see in the summer makeup post here. 10/10 loved this sample.

The Youth to the People cleanser. I had high hopes for this one as I heard so many great reviews. But honestly, it’s just a cleanser…very basic. It’s very similar to the Ceptaphil gentle cleanser which is under $10. Still I will use it because it is gentle and works! 10/10 for effectiveness.

Laneige Water Bank Moisture Cream. I haven’t heard about this product much before unlike their other products. It is hydrating and dries quick leaving a nice finish. But, again honestly, just another moisturizer. I think I will stick to my other moisturizers. I would buy the Fresh rose moisturizer because it feels more luxurious compared to this Laneige one. The full size costs $36.00 USD. 5/10 for overall quality.

The Viktor&Rolf Flowerbomb is a fragrance sample and it is quite strong but not unbearable. I am not a fan of perfumes in general so this was my least favorite sample. It is a floral scent as the Flowerbomb name suggests. 5/10 for the scent.

Living Proof Restore Repair Hair Mask. I was excited to try this because I always appreciate a mask for my thick and frizzy wavy hair. The texture is creamy and felt like it would do the job well. But for my hair type (2A/2B) it was not nourishing enough. This mask is would be suitable for thiner hair. When I use conditioner, it feels silky smooth. When I used this mask, I didn’t feel my hair soften. 3/10 as I didn’t notice a difference. Thank goodness for samples!

Overall, I recommend this if you would like to try out high end/expensive skincare and makeup products for a fair price! I believe they have a new one each month so I would stay on the lookout for the next one if you didn’t like the products this month. Let me know if you have tried any of these products or recommend anything you would like me to review!

Thank you for reading and until next time don’t forget to stay Chic Neat and Sweet!

Sincerely, Aditi

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July 1st, 2020. Yes, today is the first day of July. Why do the days keep going faster and faster? No clue. How is 2020 half way done? No idea. Is the next 6 months going to be crazier? At this point, you got to expect the unexpected.

The only way to keep me from losing track of life is by planning at the start of each month. Since my planner has been a little bit dry these past 3 months, I have been going deeper with my planning and goal setting.

There are 3 main steps for planning that I do each month:

  1. Write down one to three main goals
  2. Break the goal down into smaller goals = mini goals
  3. Assign a mini goal for each week of July

I was inspired to write a post about this because Lavendaire, a lifestyle YouTuber, posted a video where she plans out her month by setting goals as well.

Before I start, I look at my notebook/planner and review the month of June. What went well? What goals did I or did not accomplish? How did I spend my time? What could I improve on to make my month better for myself?

✨ Step 1 ✨ Goal Setting

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How I Organize my Makeup/Skincare Counter

Hey there, it’s time for an organization post. Normally I am not in the mood to clean my beauty products, (hello dirty makeup brushes) but it has been a few months since I re-organized my makeup/skincare shelf. If you have a lot of products laying around here and there, but dread the thought of putting it away, I have some inspiration for you! Here is how I like to organize my makeup and skincare products.

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Save or Splurge? Tatcha The Water Cream and Deep Cleanse Review

Welcome back to another save or splurge where I review a product and determine if it is better to save your money and skip this product or to splurge and buy it!

Today I will be sharing my thoughts on Tatcha The Deep Cleanse and The Water Cream.

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