Little fears within us are detrimental to living our lives to the full potential. We all have fears in life whether they are small or big, fears often leave a lasting impact. It can stop you from dreaming big (fear of failure) or fear can stop you from speaking up when you see something wrong. What I have noticed is that we usually fear the outcome. We fear what will happen if, for example, we speak up against a wrong doing or what will happen if we fail at starting our dream business.
Fear is a something we can not get rid of, no matter how hard you try, it will always be there. So what’s the solution? Should you stop dreaming in fear of failure and therefore stop living? Or you can work with it. Yes, you can work with your fear.
A fear I pushed past was the fear of getting in a car accident. I had recently got my license and was driving home from the store with my family in the car. It was dark, snowy, and low visibility so I couldn’t tell the road was slippery and icy. The fear of the car skidding on the ice was prominent. I let it cloud my focus on the road and instead of driving carefully, I was thinking of my fear of being in an accident because of the icy roads. Guess what happened? I lost control of the car as it started skidding and swaying left to right. Luckily, my mom in the passenger seat helped me steady the wheel so we didn’t collide with an oncoming car.
This incident scared me to not drive for many months even in the spring/summer because I didn’t want to be in that situation again (fear). I eventually worked with my fear of getting in a car accident by taking control of the fear, answering the what if questions, and taking the necessary actions to conquer the fear.
How to work with your fear
To reduce fear, you have to stop from making it a big deal in your head. We tend to be overdramatic when facing our fears which causes us to stop thinking clearly.
The first step is to think about what will happen if you confront your fear. Work through the bad things or the worst that will happen. Then think “What if things go right? What’s the best that could happen? What if what happens is good?”
Approach fear with gratitude.
“Thank you fear for keeping me safe, alert, and for protecting me from danger.” Calm down the fear and tell yourself that there is no reason to panic.
Try this with a fear you may have that is relatively small to you. How about a fear of spiders. What if you see a spider on the bathroom sink? I would personally scream and my mind would start a river of what if questions and panic.
- Calm down your mind as best you can. Tell yourself that the spider is small, harmless, can not fly, and has zero power. What’s the worst that can happen? It gets away. What’s the best that can happen? You get rid of the spider!
- With a clear mind, work with what options you have to get rid of the spider.
- Do the action.
I hope you can see that fear should not get in the way of your dreams. Life is greater than you can imagine once you get out of your own way and be open to your potential. If you liked this post, check out more like this in the “Sincerely, Aditi” category for more life advice and tips.
Thank you for reading and until next time don’t forget to stay Chic Neat and Sweet!
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