In today’s society so many girls are pressured to be something of perfection. The problem is no one is sharing what that perfection includes, therefore girls everywhere have the daily struggle of constantly second guessing themselves.
Simple things like what to wear, or what to eat are so controversial. As a day goes on you find yourself asking questions or questioning your worth. Is this trend in? Should I eat this? Does this make me look ‘popular’? What’s a cool joke? And then every decision you make becomes a constant debate. “I saw a ‘popular girl’ wearing this so, maybe I should wear it too, but that would be copying her, but it looks cute on me, but then people will think I’m trying too hard.”
The point is so many questions and put downs of ourselves go through our mind every day that it has become normal. That’s bad. No girl should be going through life second guessing every action she does just because she is worried about what other people think.
So many people want approval from someone they think of as better than them, to feel worthy, and because of that girls are turning towards being shy and not saying anything to avoid doing something wrong or even worse turning towards disorders such as eating disorders…. all for approval. How is that right? When in time did it become a rule that you had to have approval or do certain things to be considered worthy.
Life is personal. It is not a game. It is not ruled or dictated by a certain person. You must make your own life. Your best friend, neighbor, family members, or even the ‘popular group’ can not make your life decisions for you. You decide what clothes you like and you wear them. You decide what words you say. You decide how you treat others.
People may make suggestions and people may set examples but your life is your choice. You must decide what makes you happy. What makes you heart skip a beat. What makes you smile. Because if you aren’t living a life of your decisions, is it really even your life?
Don’t waste time worrying over how many people liked your photo on Instagram, or how long it takes for someone to respond. The reality is, it doesn’t matter who likes your photo or what people think of you. You are the only person who can say what and who you are. Are you funny? Are you kind? Witty? Humble?
Figure out who you are, and if you don’t know, you have the journey we call life to figure it out. Just make sure your journey is worth it and will truly end with you knowing the real raw person you are. Embrace your personality. Own your style. And laugh at your mistakes.
Life is not meant to be put downs, and popularity contests. It is meant to be lived, and you are the only one who can decide on how you are going to live it. If you dread getting out of bed and can’t wait for the day to be over you are doing something wrong. Your living life right, when you are excited and can’t wait to get started on your goals and dreams. Live your life and make it a good one.
I hope and pray that all of you feel worth it. If you don’t, start telling yourself you are. I can write this post and I can give you advice but you are the only one that can believe in yourself. You are the only one who knows who you are, and half the time you do know but you are scared to share it with others. It is one thing to not want to share it with others, and another to be afraid of sharing your real personality with others. Learn to have confidence, put on your armour, and stop caring what people think.
You are beautiful. You are smart. You are worth it. No matter what people say, every single one of you is worth it. Every single person is amazing and unigue in their own way. Stop telling yourself you aren’t.
When all else fails, tell yourself you are worth it, and keep saying it until you believe it. Say it to yourself as you go to bed, when you wake up, on your way to work/school and at some point you will realize you aren’t having to make yourself say it but instead you believe it.
As always, don’t forget to stay Chic Neat and Sweet.
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